By Sebastian Harris / Global Seducer
What is mindfulness?
When you think about mindfulness you might think about meditation, yoga and new age hippies who are running around in the woods. You might even roll your eyes whenever you hear the word mindfulness, because you think that it’s just one of those buzzwords without a real meaning.
Well, for some people it might be nothing but a buzzword, but for me it has a deeper meaning and I hope this article will inspire you to think about its meaning.
For me the word mindfulness means love.
Yes, mindfulness has more to do with love than you probably think.
I honestly believe that a mindful person is more likely to meet and attract the woman of his dreams. Of course this principle is also true if you are a woman and you want to attract the man of your dreams, but due to the fact that I am a man, I write this article from my own point of view.
Thanks to becoming a mindful person I learned to attract love, to allow love and to give love. A couple of years ago all those things were completely alien to me. All I wanted was to enjoy my time with beautiful girls.
Deep connections, fulfilling relationships and sharing unforgettable moments were not on my agenda. This changed over the time. To be honest, it changed because I realized that being a mindful human being was my only chance to experience the relationships that I always dreamed of.
On my journey I learned what mindfulness actually means for your dating life, your personal development and your ability to attract love. Please allow me to share my insights with you in the following lines.
Become Aware of Who You are
Mindfulness allows you to become aware of the person you are. It allows you to look into the mirror and to actually see a human being with feelings, fears and hopes. In a time in which everyone is so obsessed with appearing perfect on Instagram, Facebook and all the other social media sites that only project a false illusion, this is already an accomplishment.
Mindfulness is a state of active and open attention to the present. While millions of people walk through life without knowing who they are, where they are going and what and who they actually want to attract, mindfulness allows you to figure those things out.
The process of figuring out who you are and who you want to become is the first step towards a fulfilling dating life. Now you have the power to look at yourself without putting on a mask, to analyze your strengths and weaknesses and to adjust your behavior until you are a man who is loved by yourself and by women.
See Her for Who She Is
What do most guys see when they look at a beautiful woman?
They either see a person who is less valuable than they are, or they see a person who is more valuable than they are.
The sad truth is that the majority of guys fall into one of two categories. They either show misogynistic tendencies that are the direct result of their failure to connect with women, or they show signs of neediness that result in the desire to put every woman on a pedestal that she doesn’t want to be on.
Mindfulness teaches you to do neither of that. A man who is mindful looks at a beautiful woman and sees her for who she really is. He sees a human being who has the same fears, the same desires and the same dreams as he has. He sees a human being who has the exact same value as he has.
This perception allows you to connect with women on a whole new level. Suddenly, you are both equal and you can connect with each other without manipulative power games.
See the Subtle Signals That Others Ignore
Most men are extremely bad at reading the subtle signals that women send out. Just the other day I was in a bar with a good friend who complained that he is a hopeless case and that he will never find the right girl.
In the very moment he said those words, I saw how two girls, one on the left side of the room and one on the right side of the room, were checking him out. A mindful man would have noticed the signs, but a man with a negative attitude and without awareness doesn’t have the ability to see what is so obvious.
Such a man is blind and will never attract the woman of his dreams. The sad truth is that he doesn’t see her when she walks past. That’s why it is so important to become a mindful man, to be in the moment and to develop the ability to see what she wants you to see.
Communicate With Your Heart
When I think back to the days before I learned how important mindfulness is, I feel sorry for all the girls who had to listen to my monologues. Back then I did what a lot of other guys do on dates. I talked a lot, but I didn’t communicate for one second.
The difference between talking and communicating is that talking is one-sided, whereas communicating is a way of connecting with another person. This is a big difference, especially when it comes to your ability to attract a woman who will eventually fall in love with you.
A man who is good at talking will talk about himself, about his job and about all his amazing characteristics. This might impress her for the first five minutes, but it doesn’t allow a deep connection.
A man who is able to communicate with his heart wants to use his words to get to know the person who he is with. He doesn’t care about whether or not he is impressive, because he knows that his ability to impress has nothing to do with the ability to attract love.
He knows that his willingness to find out more about the girl of his dreams and his desire to connect with her in this process is what makes her fall for him.