By Nick Bastion / Vixen Daily
If you’ve ever been kept up at night, tossing and turning, wondering if a guy likes you or if you’re wasting your time…
Then I’m sure you’ve thought about how to figure it out – and whether there are signs that a guy likes you.
It turns out – the answer is a lot simpler than you might expect…
…but it’s also irrelevant when it comes to getting him interested in you.
In fact, obsessing over looking for the signs that a guy likes you or not will stand between you and the happiness you want – and wind up pushing men away in the long run.
However, before I get to that – I should answer your question first.
So here are the signs that a guy gives you when he likes you:
A guy who likes you will be around you as much as he can. He’ll treat you differently than the other people in his life, and he’ll put in the effort to spend time with you – even if he’s busy.
He’ll call and text you first, without you having to text him in order to set up plans with you. Then, when you do spend time together, he’ll really pay attention to what you have to say – and remember the things you tell him.
All these signs really have one thing in common – they are what people do for the people who are truly important to them in life.
If he’s interested in you – you’re going to be an important person to him – and therefore you’re going to be near the top of his list of priorities.
(Not AT the top necessarily, but certainly near it).
You also might notice another thing about all these signs: they’re really obvious when you look for them.
That’s because there’s one truth at the bottom of all this: men are simple.
He’s not going to drop clues that he’s interested in you like he’s inviting you to solve a mystery, and he’s CERTAINLY not going to be subtle about it.
Instead, he’s going to behave in quite obvious ways that tell you he’s interested in you. For example: treating you as an important person in his life, and behaving accordingly.
There’s a reason why so many women get confused about whether a guy likes them or not – it’s because those women don’t see the obvious signs that he likes her – so they assume that he’s trying to show his affection in secret, hidden ways.
The truth of the matter is, guys are simple, and if you don’t see the obvious signs that he likes you, it’s not because he’s hiding his feelings or giving you subtle hints… it’s because he’s not interested.
To a lot of women, this is too painful of a possibility to consider – so they try to invent all kinds of secret and subtle signals that men give off when they’re interested…
…only to wind up confused, anxious, and lost later, wondering how he truly feels about them.
Now, earlier I talked about how looking for “signs” will actually push a man away, and I want to elaborate on that.
Remember when I said men are simple? I really meant it. Men become interested in women for one reason: it feels good for him to be around her.
Men like being around things that make them feel good, and they don’t like being around things that make them feel bad. I said it was simple, right?
When a guy is around a woman who makes him feel good – he wants to be around her more. He craves her presence. And he goes out of his way to spend more and more time with her.
Sound familiar? It means he’s interested in her.
Of course, the converse also applies. If he doesn’t feel good when he hangs out with her, he’s going to avoid her, and never call or text her first, and he’s not going to be interested in her.
So obviously that begs the question – how do you make a guy feel good around you, and how do you avoid making a guy feel bad around you.
And the answer lies in one thing: your mood.
Your mood is going to control your entire interaction with him. You know how some people are just negative all the time – and it feels negative to hang out with them? You wind up feeling drained and tired after spending time with them – and it makes you want to avoid them altogether.
That’s all determined by mood. Their mood is negative, and it winds up draining your energy and making you feel bad.
On the other hand, the people who always seem to be in a good mood, who are generally positive and relaxed, and who are comfortable with themselves and with spending time with you – those people feel good to hang out with. You want to spend more time with them. You want to have more of them in your life.
It’s the same thing when it comes to men and dating. If you focus on keeping your mood positive, it’s going to feel good for him to be around you – and he’s going to want to be around you more.
However, if your mood is negative, the opposite will happen. It won’t feel good for him to be with you – so he’ll avoid spending time with you.
Now, don’t get me wrong: I’m not telling you to be “fake” or to fake your mood – because your mood can’t be faked. Your mood comes from how you truly feel in the privacy of your own mind – and that will always shine through, no matter how you’re behaving on the surface.
So how does this tie into looking for “signs” that he’s interested in you?
Well, if you’re looking for “signs”, it means you’re feeling anxious about how he feels about you. You’re uncertain of his feelings, and you’re worried about it, and you want more information so you can know the truth.
That anxious, worried, insecure mood is going to bubble to the surface of any interaction with him – and it’s going to poison the time you spend together.
This is especially true if you’re looking for “signs” he’s into you – that means you’re scrutinizing his behavior and combing it for clues – and he’s going to feel like he’s walking on eggshells! He’s going to feel totally uncomfortable, like he has to avoid doing or saying the “wrong” thing or you’ll be upset.
So what’s the answer? Instead of focusing on signs, focus on being as good a mood as possible. Let go of any expectations or plans or thoughts about the future and focus on the present instead. Don’t worry if he likes you or not – just assume that he does and do whatever will make you happiest in the moment.
When you’re comfortable, secure, and happy in the moment, he will be too. And that will feel good to him, which will make him want to be around you more and more, which will make him interested in you.
See how that works?
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